I wrote in my last entry about some of the service and submission aspects of my hurt/comfort fantasy. In an essay I found today, a fannish writer explores some of the issues many other fen have with H/C fiction regarding its appropriateness, and calls for increased realism and understanding of medical ailments and disabilities within the genre:
“The comfort is what’s important, the hurt that’s going on, it’s necessary to get to that step. […] Hurt isn’t what these fics are about; the fics are about characters expressing love and devotion for one another by helping one another through the rough patches. Hurt is the mechanism that allows for the comfort. I know it’s not what you want to hear, because it’s the subject of the current debate, but the disability, the depression, the PTSD, they are not the central theme of the story. These ailments are plot devices to enable the comfort that comes after the fact. For me, at least, and I won’t say this is true of the entire genre, I am chasing after the comfort. I don’t want to read a 100,000 word fic about a character who is in pain, suffering alone, and working through his issues alone.”
— hollow_echos, Why Hurt/Comfort, You Ask?
PREACH, girlfriend, PREACH! I never thought about the H/C genre this way before, but I think this writer hits the nail on the head vis a vis some of the criticism the genre has received. For me, this essay makes me recognize that my fantasies completely skip the “hurt” part of the hurt/comfort (for example, the two fantasies I delineated in the last post), so it’s sort of a moot point, but still well worth the read.
Though the writer mentions disabiliy (it’s discussed much further in the comments to the essay), my H/C/injury-worship/wound-kissing/whatever-the-fuck kink is entirely different from my devo kink and my attraction to some folk with disabilities. My H/C and injury worship kinks share a pain and comfort aspect that my devo thing doesn’t include: my devo thing has more to do with a specifically butch characterization of strength.
As I’ve said before, butchness appears to be an inherent aspect of devotee attraction for many; think about that brief shot in the film Saved! where Mandy Moore’s character dumps her para brother’s wheelchair off of the car ramp and he braces the jump like a pro. I know most devos probably found it way hotter than I did, but it definitely got my attention. Hell, I think the part of the appeal of the Paralympics is for viewers to “get off” on this butchness, sexually or no. If you got a few minutes, see these examples.
1) Nike capitalizes on CAB fascination/fetishization of disabled bodies:
2) Canadian Paralympic sledge hockey team with bonus Rick Mercer (Warning: brief shot of Canadian Prime Minister Stephen Harper near beginning):
3) Learn about sledge hockey and the men who love it (This video beautifully illustrates my issue with the term “able-bodied.” As a CAB, what is my body able to do [hint: not that] and why is it so prioritized and valued over what these or other disabled bodies can do? But I digress.). The men also describe how they were injured, satisfying the curiosity of CAB viewers who demand an explanation for why their bodies are not normative:
The men in these videos do not appear to be in search of any comfort. The fantasy here is, for me, largely about service and submission, but also just plain run-of-the-mill lust. (If the 2014 team needs a volunteer massage “therapist,” I urge them to contact me. I imagine: a man lying face down on the bed while I straddle his waist; smoothing his broad back and shoulders with fragrant oils and kneading out all those hard-worked muscles as he groans in pleasure. [Phew, that wasn’t so difficult.] Nothing specifically dev about this particular fantasy, I know, but… but, like, there it is.)
As I’ve said before, devoteeism, while often being focused on butch independence, leaves a lot of space for service kinks. Over at Kink Bingo again, theleaveswant posted an essay and picspam exploring the concept of pervertibles. I’ll quote from her here:
““Pervert” comes from Latin roots meaning “to turn away” from something; if you cut through the stigma of the word’s history connoting first religious and later sexual misbehaviour, ‘perversion’ is another twist on redirection and transformation. As fans we “pervert” (in this destigmatized sense) by taking the germ of an idea from one piece of art and using it to grow another. […] Once you get into the habit of looking in a particular way, you start to see things you didn’t before in places you never expected—this is what we mean when we talk about slash goggles, kink goggles and porn as a reading practice. Pervertibility is another way of framing these tricks for looking/sensing, feeling for the play potential that was always already there and finding new worlds in the dirt.”
— theleaveswant, The World Is My Toybag: Pervertible Practices (And You!)
The same way a simple act such as cleaning a Dom’s house or serving them tea can become “perverted” into a D/s service scene, so too can many aspects of care and assistance specific to people with disabilities. Attending a holiday event with a friend, I noticed a man in the crowd who used a wheelchair. A woman who was with him was at his feet, doing… I don’t know what exactly — possibly massaging a cramp, or helping him shift positions, or maybe he was having her check for a bump or scrape he wasn’t sure whether he had on his foot or leg. But there she was, in the midst of the crowd, on the ground in front of him. What an incredibly pervertible scene.
(I lamented to my friend the difficulty of checking out people with non-normative bodies: how does one deploy the lustful gaze that is integral to flirtation without revictimizing the individual, subjecting them to the stares and gawking they so often receive [see, for example, Gawking, Gaping, Staring by crip activist Eli Clare]?
“It’s easy,” she said, “Just make sure you wink.”)